We hear it all the time. In life there are winners and there are losers. And why is that? Because a few successful jackasses screwed over a ton of people to get to the top. So, lots of people just followed suit. But we see it often, burn all the bridges in your way and eventually there aren't any left to help you get back across when the time comes.
So habit 4, think win/win is using the attitude that there are are resolutions to conflicts or to mere situations that are mutually beneficial to all parties involved. It's the "third alternative."
Really, it's safe to say this is a "mature" mindset. The "I win, you lose" mindset is really childish in most situations... maybe not all... but probably most.
And here is a kicker for many people: What do I do if I am unable to come up with a win/win situation in a family or business situation? The answer is simple: Walk away. Really? Just walk away?? Yes, when you walk away, you don't burn any bridges by winning and making someone else lose and you don't lose by giving up and letting someone else win.
Need an example? Well, when my wife and I are having a bitter, heated discussion. We come up with a mutually beneficial solution: I go play Mario Kart Wii and she gets the last word. We all win. Except when she then joins me and beats me at Mario Kart... then there is no win/win and I just walk away.
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