"You shut your mouth when you're talking to me!"

There's a well known but seldom discussed disease infesting millions of Americans today. 99% of people know it's a problem but 90% of those 99% don't think it's a problem they have or attribute to... it's called "Rude"

Rudeness is a funny thing. Rudeness is only rude when it's someone else doing it, not yourself. Being rude is an expression of frustration, but nonetheless, it's a choice.

I, Shawn Finer, have indeed been rude a time or two. The funny thing is I remember those moments so well, but not NEARLY as well as I remember those who have been rude to me.

Yet I can't but wonder, if being less than cordial is anything less than unappreciated, why do people do it? It's because it's convenient. What do people do when someone is rude to them? They are rude back.

It's just human nature. Now when you stop to think about it, when you fight fire with fire, everyone gets burned. While I do succumb to this at times myself, I have found a great practice that does something rather wonderful. At the foundation it is still just a selfish act, but stick with it:

Kill them with kindness

This means, don't get rude back. Smile. When that jerk cuts you off and gives you the bird, wave as if saying "It's okay."

It makes you feel great because you didn't lower yourself to their level. But also, and more importantly, it gets them that much more ANGRY. 

It's sickly satisfying, but most importantly, it helps you practice control. You'll sleep better if you control yourself and actually mean it. People will be harsh, rude, crude, or any expletive will do. Doesn't mean you have to be as well.

Kill with kindness and you'll live.